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October 2011

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30 Day Challenge: 5. Five things that irritate you about opposite/same sex?

Please keep in mind, this is just a list of things that are against my values, does not mean that they are wrong or anything!!  

  1. Not keep a promise one has made

    Number 1 rule of my life. If you promised something, DO IT. And do it well.
    If you know you can’t do it, then don’t make that promise on the first place! It can hurt the person you promised a lot more than you think. 
    Not keeping promise includes being late to everything!
  2. Gossiping behind someone’s back

    You have a problem about someone? Face them directly. Don’t talk behind their back. You have a question you need to clarify? Get it clarified. Don’t go behind someone and spread rumors.
  3.  Hygiene, Cleanliness

    I don’t want to say just boys have this problem because I have seen a lot of scarily dirty, messy girls rooms…
    Just eh, do laundry regularly… (does not mean once a semester!) and clean up your stuff once in a while… Shower! Please shower also!
  4. Girls - Constant thought of dieting, or eat very little because you are afraid to be fat

    I understand there is a component where the media puts a lot of pressure on girls to look very fit, actually, unhealthily thin all the time. But it still bothers me when girls always mention that they have eat less! To me, real dieting includes exercise, not just eat less. Besides, my moral is that - if you’re not eating now, you’ll regret as you can’t eat those less healthy food when you’re 60!
  5. (Associate more to Boys) - Overuse of swear words, unhealthy amount of alcohol consumption, (drugs is forever a no)

    I understand when people swear once in a while, I do too. But when people swear in every sentence, it bothers me. If you have no other better things to say, don’t say it; if you don’t have better vocabulary, then… please learn some! 
    Sorry, I am just not a fan of the college alcohol culture in America. We can talk more about that another time. 
Oct 28, 2011
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30 Day Challenge: 4. What do you wear to bed?

An oversized t-shirt - usually I got them for free during events but they ran out of smalls and mediums~

Boxer pajama (? is that how you call it?) 

Socks! - I have cold hands and feet all the time. And when people’s feet and hands are warm, they fall asleep faster. So I always wear socks to bed in the winter! Try it if you don’t believe it!

:D

Sad thing is, I don’t sleep much, so eh, pj is not on me much. 

Oct 27, 2011
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30 Day Challenge: 3. What kind of person attracts you?

Well, because they did not specify “male/female” or “friends” or anything, I will just go with the general “what kind of persons do I like”?

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My friends always say that I’m too picky when it comes to finding a bf, and I have to admit, it’s the Capricorn coming out of me - I either like someone, or I don’t. I trust my intuition (and I admit, there are times when I’m wrong about a person) and if I think that person is worth trusting and befriending, then yay! :)

Eh, to list them out:

  • Genuine, down to earth
  • Keep their promises. It’s a rule that I stand by very firmly, so I hope my friends do too.
  • Have a passion in their lives. I don’t care if that passion seems heroic or not, it is essential for everyone to have something they care about it life, right?
  • One who understands my humor, and I understand his/hers. For some reason, I find it really important to have people who can make me laugh.
  • Polite.
  • Accepting of who I am.

I know the more I list, the more unlikely a person like this will happen. Heheee, too high of a standard? [O.S. Hey, I’m a pretty loyal and good friend, I support you til you die yo] So yea, I have been convincing myself that… I have to be open-minded… a difficult thing to do for Capricorns…

Oct 25, 2011
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30 Day Challenge: 2. How have you changed in the past 2 years?

I actually went back to my photo storage and dairy to answer this question!  Well, to be exact, I went to see Jude Law performing in Hamlet at NYC on Oct 25, 2009. It’s pretty close to exactly 2 years ago!

2 years. The past 2 years was for some reason, pretty “blurred” for me now that I think of it. It was Senior Fall in high school, a very stressful and painful time for me. My parents pushed me to begin preparing for college apps in the summer, and I did, but nothing really turned out very well. By the time in September, I am pretty sure I am applying to Duke for Early Decision. And there was a lot of argument between my parents and I during September and October due to ED. My mum actually stayed in the area for a while in order to help me on my applications. However, I felt like things were under-control on my side while my parents disagree. Parts of it was because my SAT score is never up to par with the “2200” standard, parts of it is me being so disappointed in myself not being able to battle these standardize tests (I have been taking SATs since 13 years old, dear), and also that I feel like I want to do this process on my own, to prove that I am no longer the little kid they think I am.

It was on Oct 7, 2009 when I got a very heart broken email from my parents. Ever since I left home, email has become the way my parents and I communicate. We survive off of not much communication, somehow that’s how it is, we catch up on everything whenever I return home. This practice made me a much happier individual when I’m at home (compared to before leaving HK).

Back on topic - so the excerpt:

our hearts break because we are seeing that you allow the doors to good college education closing in front of you one by one.  We are already seeing the consequences of your decisions / behavior, and we want to hone you to stay out of the large holes in front of you – although it is already very late because you’ll only have half a month before stepping into the holes.

When I first got the email, I was both so angry and upset at the same time. It made me upset because I have always been trying my best to satisfy/please my parents (just like a lot of Asian kids). And when my parents said that they were heart broken because of me, and that I am heading towards disaster = torn me so badly. I felt like I was a failure in life because I cannot fulfill what my parents want and what they hoped for me. And then there was anger. I was just mad that they sent out such an email knowing I was stressed already. “Why don’t they trust me?” I keep on asking myself, “why do they think I will fall into the holes?” I was confident that I would not up until that point.

Be it their email, or my original plan was correct, I ended up at Duke. 

To me, there is definitely a chunk of God being very nice and luck. But the fact that I made it was a huge boost to my self-esteem. I would have never expected to make it to Duke ED, and have the rest of my Senior Year carefree. 

Anyhow, the year of applying colleges made me rethink who I am living for. Am I living to please my parents? Am I living to challenge myself? Am I living to just have fun? Am I living to earn big bucks?

When I ended up at Duke, I try my best to take “living to enjoy myself” part, maybe even a bit too much. Joining a sorority is nothing on the agenda, and nothing CLOSE to what my parents would expect of me. They still don’t really understand this whole ordeal, and they always think that I can “be less active” in it once I become a sister (which is the exact opposite…). But for now, pleasing my parents are not on the top of my list. > <

It is quite ironic because my parents ended the letter with:

I want you to retain this letter on file and review it in the next decade, then next two decades, …… then next some decades when Dad and I are not around anymore. I want you to bear in mind our love for you, and review our worry at this moment in order to understand why our hearts break in this very month. 

Maybe when I re-read the email in 30 years, I will have totally different view of this~

Until then…

Oct 25, 2011
#30 day challenge
30 Day Challenge: 1. Meaning behind your Tumblr name

This tumblr name’s is… “A Daily Dose of Culture”

As I mentioned before, this is a blog where I share things I find interesting, thought-provoking, eye-catching, disturbing or whatever that I want to talk about.  

Culture has always been something essential to me because Hong Kong is such a culturally-unique place. There is a fair share of British culture left behind, and of course a strong Chinese cultural background. But in between, there are so many different cultures mixed into it.

Other than that, culture itself is just around us constantly. We cannot avoid being shaped by our cultures daily, be it the US pop culture, the college culture, your family’s culture, your friends group’s culture etc. Thus, I think everyone can have an opinion about the culture they’re living in. It is such a broad topic that everyone can pitch in. 

Oct 24, 20111 note
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Oct 24, 20117,493 notes
#quote
Embarrassed for CCTV...again

derekzhao:

This is not ok. Not so much because CCTV so blatantly copied the BBC right down to percussions stings, chord progressions, and instrumentation, but because they did it so poorly! Cringeworthy, really. For a culture that’s sensitive about shame, this is sure shameless. Wish I could bust into their offices, tell them they did a terrible job ripping off the BBC, and offer to do a much better job copying BBC’s music.

Oct 21, 20111 note
#china #cctv
Oct 21, 20117,414 notes
#confidence #weakness #self
The Cycle of Procrastination

I swear, I do the exact same thing!

It’s really coming to get me this week when I have 2 mid-terms! 

freakinfruity:

When I have a lot of work I get stressed. When I get stressed I procrastinate. When I procrastinate I let the work build up. Does anyone see the vicious cycle. 

Proof…. I’m on tumblr right now.

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#kpop #girl groups #Chocolat #쇼콜라 #korean girls
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Oct 12, 2011
Why do we (I) watch Asian dramas? ft. Radway's "Reading the Romance" PART II

Last post - I discussed some of the reasons Radway explains why women read romance novels, which I then transfered/referenced in my arguments in why we watch dramas/soap operas.

This time, I am going to use Radway once again (that’s how I much I love her writing! Her arguments are so accurate! AHHHHH). But I am going to focus on the “language and narrative discourse” of dramas.

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Have you ever thought of why the heck do the same things happened in dramas? Why do the writers use similar plot lines, similar character backgrounds, similar “‘dramatic incidences” and so on?   One can argue that because those plot lines are the most successful, so they keep writing it that way.  

Radway points out that romance novels has a similar phenonmenon. Romance novels are usually dominated by “cliche, simple vocabulary, standard syntax” (189) and basic narrative techniques. These all contributes to easier and quicker reading, meaning the earlier one can finish the whole story. In other words, readers “seems to judge writing solely on the basis of the efficiency with which it gets its job done, that is tells the story” (189).

I can see that happening in dramas.

Often times, watching the first episode gives me enough information to guess the outcome of the drama. This is mostly because of how the characters are set up in dramas.

  • Main male lead is often the not-so-lovable guy in the story. He and the female lead usually starts out with some disagreement - or they simply dislike each other. 
  • Second male lead is always the sweetheart of the story. He is usually a close friend of the girl, or the BFF of the male lead. 
  • The female lead’s BFF(s) usually the characters who brings laughter to the show. Characteristics range from chatty, noisy, brave, dumb to quiet, meek, smart etc. Nonetheless, they are always there for the female lead (aww).   
  • The affair - beautiful person, attracts everyone’s eyeball EXCEPT the main lead… and is super good at creating disasters/spreading unfounded myths.
  • Parents of the male lead (usually the mother in Korean drama) has immense power in their hands. In the beginning of the story, they probably have huge control over male lead’s life, including marriage prospects. This will change as the drama goes on.

These narratives basically acts like the simple vocabulary in a romance novel - they help viewers immediately comprehend who is who and what viewers should expect from those characters.  

This idea goes with Radman’s:

… the fictional characterizations depend on these previously known codes, they also tacitly legitimate them through simple repetition,… (193)

The reason why drama viewers can quickly catch on each person’s role is that they are often reenforced whenever one watches a drama. When most dramas describes the male lead as stubborn and arrogant in the beginning - Stubborness and arroganance in turn became “essential shorthand” for “Main male lead” to the viewers. 

Events in a drama can also become shorthands that help viewers understand the plot lines. As said before - the main male lead and the main female lead starts off hating each other. How do they end up falling head to toes for each other in the end? There has to be a transition, and basically, the drama is about how they fall for each other. (Sometimes, the transition is so abrupt that I’m like - What on earth happened to them that they start liking each other so much?)

Writers usually employ common events to assist that transition. Common ones are events that involve the male lead risking his life to save the girl (hence the car crashes), the male lead disregarding his all-mighty image to be on the same side with the girl (disagree with his friends/the affairs) basically whenever the boy decides to do something out of the line for the girl. Whenever you see something DRAMATIC like occurs, you know it, the girl will fall for the boy. And part of it is that the guy probably likes the girl enough so he did that. 

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“The Technique of Aimless Glance”

Romantic authors often squander lavish amounts of space on the description of foreign environments and historical customs that are very likely not already known except in them ost skeletal way by the reader. (195)

I think there is something similar in dramas too. Just something that I seldom notice. But yes, locations play huge role in dramas. The house/apartment that the leads reside in, the company the leads work in, the school they go to etc. usually become a famous tourist spot. These places play a huge role in the drama because many romantic/memorable incidents happen there. The atmosphere of the location and the structure of the building effects how those little episodes are presented.

Classic scenes like - kissing across the hand rails of the long staircase, embracing each other in the middle of the road (yes with cars running next to them), tripped on [insert item] and lead to close bodily contact… etc

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Among those Radway interviewed, a big portion of them indicates that they have the practice to read the last page of the novel before buying it.  Radway explains that these women wants to make sure the story is going to end happily ever after. This is because one reads those novels to relive joyful moments/reassure true love exists etc, it would be against those purposes to read a book that the lovers don’t end up together.

I really think there is that component in dramas too. But the thing is, I have yet to see a drama that the main male lead does not get the girl.

Dream High possibly created some heated debates because there are 2 equally important main leads - JinGook (performed by Taecyeon) and SamDong (SuHyeon) - in the story. They are fighting for the same girl HyeMi. The first part of the drama, JinGook seems to be going ahead in the race, but SamDong eventually ends up getting the girl. 

Question to ponder: Will you watch the show if you know the ending is not a “happily ever after” one?? 

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One final quote that sums up a lot of ideas:

Because romances are always novel-like narratives of the yet-to-be-determined destiny of different heroines, they suggest to the reader that all women, like the heroine about who she reads, are unique individuals who live in ignorance of their own future and who are quite capable of living orignal existences. (207)

Once again, Radway brings up the argument that women read romance novels to assure themselves that they are unique, they have potentials to create a life of their own, and they are going to be loved by men they themselves love.  

If drama does the same to us, then dramas are pacifiers of the culture. We watch dramas so that we can live through those scenes of intense romance, those scenes of the female leads breaking through old traditions and the control of males, those scenes immense happiness and sadness. 

We must also ask - why do women have to use drama as a way to justify their own importance in the society? Do we watch drama because we lack those things in our lives? I am sure this would lead to another can(s) of worms - about the roles of female in the society.

until then…

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pheewwww.

If you read through the whole thing, I must say Thank you!!! :) It’s unthinkable to me that people would want to read this monster post. But if you did, really, thanks and please leave a comment!

If you just jumped from the beginning sentence to here… then, let me assure you, there are some good parts in the essay. And actually, a part that talks about why you’re reading this ending before you even read the whole thing.

Oct 11, 201115 notes
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Don't Be Afraid To Be Yourself.  →

I added in some other things that might be fun to know!

Reblog and bold what applies to you.

  • I’m loud.
  • I’m sarcastic. 
  • I’m funny.
  • I have a weird sense of humor.
  • I cry easily.  <- One of those who cries when watching a movie!!!
  • I have a bad temper. 
  • I’m easy to get along with. 
  • I’m gullible.
  • I have more enemies than friends.
  • I’ve smoked
  • I drink coffee. 
  • I don’t eat breakfast in the morning.
  • I clean my room daily.
  • I am always using my cellphone.
  • I am always using my computer.
  • I am a TV drama addict.
  • I can speak more than 2 languages.

My appearance:

  • I wear make-up.  <- Not day to day
  • I wear a piece of jewelry at all times.
  • I wear contacts.
  • I wear glasses. 
  • I have braces.  <- I had!
  • I change my hair color often.
  • I have a piercing.
  • I have small feet.  <- HAHA the extreme opposite
  • I never had long hair before.

Relationships:

  • I’m in a relationship now.
  • I’m single.
  • I’m crushin’.  ^ _ ^
  • I’ve missed an ex before.
  • I’m always scared of being hurt.
  • I’ve told someone I didn’t love them when I did. 
  • I’ve been in love more than two times.
  • I’ve been waiting for the right one for more than 2 years.
  • I believe in love at first sight. 

Friendships:

  • I have a best friend.  
  • I have at least ten REAL friend
  • I’ve gotten a phone call in the last 48 hours from a friend.
  • I’ve beaten up a friend. 
  • I’ve been in a serious fight with a friend.
  • I use to have a close friend that I am no longer friends with.
  • I can trust at least five people with my life.

School:

  • I have skipped a grade before.
  • I had All-As before.
  • I am a rebellious student.
  • I like literature classes.
  • I like language classes.
  • I like math/science classes.
  • I had a crush on a teacher before.
  • I hated my classmates 
  • A teacher changed my life.
  • My parents don’t care about my grades.

Experiences:

  • I’ve been on a plane.
  • I’ve taken a taxi.
  • I’ve taken a city bus.
  • I’ve taken a school bus.
  • I’ve made a speech. 
  • I’ve been in some sort of club.

Music:

  • I listen to R&B.
  • I listen to pop.
  • I listen to techno.
  • I listen to rock. 
  • I create my own music.
  • I sing/sang in a choir.
  • I sing in the shower.
  • I love karaoke.
  • I (secretly) think that I can sing pretty well.
  • I’m one of those people who play songs repeatedly until I hate it. 
  • I download music. 
  • I buy CD’s. 

Family Life:

  • I get along with both of my parents for the most part.
  • My biological parents are still together.
  • I have at least one brother.
  • I have at least one sister.
  • I’ve been kicked out of the house.
  • I’ve sworn at my parents.
  • I’ve made my parents cry. 
  • I’ve lied to my parents. 
  • I’ve lied to my parents about where I am. 
  • I’ve lied to my parents about what I’m doing. 

Hair:

  • I have had streaks.
  • I’ve cut my hair in the past year. 
  • I’ve dyed my hair in the past year.
  • I’ve been blonde. 
  • I’ve had black.
  • I’ve been red.
  • I use conditioner.  
  • I’ve curled my hair.
  • I’ve straightened my hair.  
Oct 9, 201147,601 notes
#be yourself #choose #text #Who I am
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